Jul 20

Our 20th Wedding Anniversary

Posted on Wednesday, July 20, 2011 in family, marriage, Mexico, travel

Mérida, 1989, on our first trip together to Mexico. That painting in the background tells the story of what would be. Happy 20th wedding anniversary to us.

Jul 24

JK Wedding Entrance Dance

Posted on Friday, July 24, 2009 in filmmaking, marriage

This video recently went viral for good reason. I share it here in the event that you didn’t receive five links to it yourself.  Somehow I think this couple is going to have a happy life together.

Jan 11

New Year, New Glasses

Posted on Sunday, January 11, 2009 in Berkshires, death, family, glasses, marriage, publishing, shopping, writing

First things first: Here’s a photo of me in my new glasses. They were designed by Frenchman Cyril Dray of I See GB in Great Barrington and manufactured by Zip+Homme in Japan. I’ve been wearing them for a couple of weeks now and like them very much, even if they’re not magic like my much-lamented former green pair.

My family didn’t warm to them until we toured the Sol LeWitt wall drawing retrospective at MASS MoCA. We were taking in LeWitt’s middle period work, the drawings with the softer geometry and vibrant, not yet screaming color, and Annalena turned to me and said, “You know Mom, your glasses are starting to grow on me.” Dave looked around the gallery, “Yes, they make sense here.”

They seem to be preaching to the choir of good glasses lovers glasses rather than ones that promote world peace by uniting all of humanity with their mystical rightness. So be it. I’m grateful that I can see and that my little New England town is home to such an excellent eyewear shop.

I’m in professional limbo at the moment, having recently drafted a proposal for a new publishing project and waiting to hear what my agent thinks of it. I hate waiting, but love being at a beginning again.

I want to keep the sense of uncharted territory and freshness going with this blog as it enters year two. The more people read my blog (8859 visitors in ’08), the harder it becomes to stay loose with it, but that’s the key.

And since this is my blog where nobody’s the boss of me except me and, as many editors have noticed, I don’t care much about formal transitions…

Dave and I met on January 3, 1989 at New Langton Arts in San Francisco and moved in together three weeks later. I remember telling a friend at the time that our blazing romance was “not trivial.” Here we are 20 years down the road. It’s a miracle and a mystery.

My heart goes out to Ericka Lutz, whose marriage in many ways seems to have mirrored my own. Her husband, Bill Sonnenschein, died unexpectedly over the holidays and she wrote this incredible blog post about it. I don’t know how she found the strength and clarity to write it…except that I do…words are solace.
Jul 20

I Count My Lucky Stars

Posted on Sunday, July 20, 2008 in marriage

Dave and me at the Hotel Trinidad in Merida on our first trip
together to Mexico, 1989.
(Cell phone photo of photo…Santa, I need a new camera…though the blurriness adds a certain historical perspective.)

Seventeen years ago today, we got married at an art gallery in San Francisco’s North Beach with a ceremony officiated by Zen Buddhist Jewish experimental poet Norman Fischer, followed by a potluck dance party at a club called Olive Oil’s on the bay. The wedding invitation was illustrated by our friend Jon Balderston and Xeroxed onto neon yellow paper. It contained relevant wise quotes from Gertrude Stein, the Reverend Al Green, and Prince (“There’s joy in repetition.”). My brother Kris gave us the wedding cake, a French croquembouche tower of cream puffs, studded with violets and cloaked with a haze of spun sugar.

The wedding was perfect at the time and it sealed the deal, however, it’s not what either of us would choose now. We’d elope, followed by a charming letterpress announcement. I’m thinking elope to the Inn of the Five Graces and Dave’s thinking La Casa Que Canta.